Here's a provocative topic for you all: to douche or not to douche?
What do I mean by "douching"? Well, for those who are not initiated into seduction community dynamics, "douching" is the practice of criticizing, making fun of, and generally ragging on other people in the community.
A little while back, a prominent member of the community heard about something that happened at one of the community events and encouraged me to "douche" the guy out. Said member of the community told me that this would increase my blog traffic.
My response: no thanks.
Why? For so many reasons.
Because, as Gandhi said, "an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."
Because it's terrible karma that will always come back to you.
Because my feelings of discomfort are not about the other person. They are about me.
Because I don't believe in judgment and criticism. I believe in love.
Because when I'm tempted to judge or criticize someone else, I usually realize pretty quickly that it's actually a signal of either some internal issue that I need to take responsibility for and dissolve or of an issue between that person and me that we need to have a conversation about to vent feelings and reach mutual understanding.
Because I believe in communication and finding solutions that work for everybody.
So you won't find me "douching people out" on this blog. I don't have energy for hate. I only have energy for love. And I invite other people in the seduction community to join me in spreading love and understanding rather than judgment.
Dear S, I would have much preferred a direct and mutually respectful conversation and a healthy dose of benefit of the doubt.
Thanks for listening.
p.s. My flight to LA tonight was delayed, but stay tuned for news from the Epic Seduction Conference. Love to everyone.