Wow, I was just out on the street moving my car for the street sweepers. I had rolled out of bed, barely awake, and was wearing sweats and flip-flops and my hair all tousled. Not exactly glamour-puss.
As I was walking back, I was distracted with my iPhone but felt someone behind me so I stepped a bit to the side. A tall, handsome man passed me, and as he did so he gave me a smile and said "hi, how are you?" and this LOOK. My body lit up like a torch. If it weren't 7 am, with him obviously on his way to work, who knows where that might have gone?
This is how much we are all communicating instantly, as I talked about in my 21 Convention speech.
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Speaking of which, to whomever purchased a 21 Convention ticket off my site yesterday, thank you :-) People like you make a big difference in supporting this blog, and every little bit helps. I received an email from Dream telling me the good news, and it brought a big smile to my face. Thank you ... you are appreciated :-)
For anyone else who wants to get in on the action, tomorrow is the last day for super discounted tickets, and last I heard there were only three left. If you use the code "erikarocks," you'll receive an additional $10 discount and you'll be supporting this blog with my deepest thanks. You'll also be signed up for the most amazingly fun event for July 2010. Go here to get your ticket and don't forget the erikarocks code.
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Finally, on the theme of appreciation (of me, yes, I appreciate appreciation too), I received this email from someone I did a session with a few weeks ago and wanted to share his follow-up for those who have been curious about longer-term results. This is what can happen for those who really make a commitment to transforming their lives:
I have been tapping quite a lot during the last week ..., and I had a few realizations - I now look at EFT in a totally different way now.
At first, when I was first introduced to EFT, I used to tap the exact feeling I had - it reduced the intensity a bit but not more than that. Then I saw Magnus said you have to tap on your beliefs - I tapped hundreds of times on that, and I did see a change, especially when tapping on self esteem, but that wasn't enough again. Then I read that I should tap the roots of the beliefs - the memories that caused me to believe in a certain way. That really didn't help even a bit, and now I understand why.
Before our session, I traced the first memory where I felt anxiety around a girl - 6th grade, when the prettiest girl in our groupage first spoke directly to me. I tried tapping that but it didn't really help, and after or session I understood - you said that what matters is how we interpret the situation! The problem wasn't the feeling itself, but the beliefs I had then about that girl, which I have related to every hot girl in my life afterwards - as if what she said is sacred and I must do everything to earn her approval. I now understand I need to search for patterns I have, that were caused by the memory itself, and tap them.
This is really fascinating and I really feel I'm doing some work here. I'd like again to thank you. I hope everything is well with you (I'm still waiting for the e-book:)), and that we'll have a chance to have another session in the future.
Nice :-) Thank you for sharing.
[I'm adding this additional info in response to Anonymous' comment below: I think what my client is getting at is that most people teaching EFT are teaching versions of it that don't result in real transformation. This is because they may address a particular superficial feeling, or even a superficial belief, but EFT only really works on what we succeed in bringing to conscious awareness. It's not enough to bring the branches of the tree to conscious awareness. You must find and eradicate the pattern at its roots. What I teach people is to use EFT whilst also having a series of "aha!" moments about their belief system, including finding the original roots of their present-day issue. When they can clearly see the connection between a specific memory (e.g., girl not responding the way they hoped in third grade), their interpretation of it (e.g., I'm not attractive), their emotional response (e.g., fear of approaching girls) ... and then see how they have carried that pattern forward, usually in a large number of subsequent events with the same emotional energetic pattern, we can usually clear the entire karmic loop out at once rather than have to keep addressing the same issue over and over again. Part of the value I add in facilitating these sessions is that I have been working with patterns like these for so long in so many different contexts that I can notice things the client is never going to notice about themselves, and I know how to help them dissolve the negative beliefs they formed about themselves from these seemingly "insignificant" memories.]
To sign up for a session like his so I can teach you what I taught him, go here.
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And, finally, I am shortly going to announce on here the 15-week curriculum for learning my extremely efficient and effective version of EFT. It's so much more than EFT because I give an entire framework for understanding belief systems and how to transform them.
This course is $5000. It hasn't even been announced yet, and I already have one confirmed signup and another very strong intuition about a second signup. This is a full-on mentorship program where I'll teach you how to do what I do with yourself and other people, and it's especially awesome because simultaneously we can work on one of your own goals and clear out all your limiting beliefs about it. Not only that, it can be applied to anything. None of this is limited to the dating/relationship arena. In fact, I expect with these students we'll be addressing financial abundance and opportunities. This is a program that will give you the solution to any and every problem that ever arises in your life: these are The Keys to the Kingdom.
But this course is going to be so time intensive on my part that I'll only be able to accept a few people into the program. Stay tuned. I am really, really excited about it :-)
Love,
Erika
Friday, October 30, 2009
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Updates, and How to Bring Abundance Into Your Life
All right, I'm still officially on strike, but there's some news that's too good to keep to myself on several fronts, and I'm going to share. The themes here are abundance and intuition.
1. On the theme of Abundance and its relationship to Appreciation:
Some of you may recall that Mysterious Benefactor Guy came to my rescue when my computer crashed by gifting me a brand new MacBook Pro with personalized training. Well, it gets better. A few days later, I sent him this heartfelt thank you note:
Dear MB Guy,
I am soooo unbelievably delighted with this new MacBook Pro. I hope when you are back in town you will let me thank you properly. It is already making such a huge difference in my life. It's so easy to use, makes everything so much easier, and to top it off, I can't get over how beautiful it is.
Thank you so much, with my whole heart. You have created a miracle in my life..
Love,
Erika
His response blew me away. He spontaneously offered to upgrade my iPhone as well, to the new 3Gs. So there you go ... the power of appreciation.
2. The Power of Intuition
Part of the reason I even feel like blogging tonight is I had a wonderful acupuncture session this evening. I feel sooo much better. Now my acupuncturist is usually booked weeks in advance, and I didn't have an appointment. How'd I get an appointment with last minute notice? I had an intuition to call. I followed my intuition. My acupuncturist had just had a cancellation at the perfect time.
Magic. For those of you who have not yet left behind your logical left brains, I hope you are beginning to see how powerless it is compared to intuition. Anyhoo ...
3. The Power of Congruence for Abundance
A few entries back, I explained why I was changing my coaching rates and structures. I feel WAY more congruent with the new structure. Why? Because I like to work with committed, motivated clients and because I am able to go so much deeper with people in their efforts to transform their lives if we work together on a regular basis. As well, the old rates and structure were not meeting my financial needs.
Oh, I had doubters saying I was going against the laws of supply and demand by raising my prices. But I knew better. This is why I tell my clients not to listen to advice, conventional wisdom, naysayers, or the laws of this world.
Always, always, always listen to your heart and intuition.
The result of congruence? I've received more coaching income in the past few days than the past two months combined. And I feel so excited to work with these highly motivated clients. Congruence = abundance. I've told you all time and time again that your EFT sessions with me will end up paying for themselves, not only financially but in living the life of your dreams.
Not only that, it led to me creating an exciting new program for people who want to learn how to do my coaching method, but more on that in the next post.
So there you go ...
4. The Power of the 21 Convention for Radically Improving Your Life
Finally, I had to break the strike in order to remind you that you're almost out of time to buy your 21 Convention tickets for 2010. The deadline for discounted tickets is October 31, which is 2 days and 19 hours away.
Seer that I am, let me tell you that you're going to kick yourself if you don't buy them at this discounted price because this event is about to become the next Burning Man, and you will want to be one of the people who got in on it during its infancy. We had a blast this past summer, and Dream, who organizes this event, has an incredible vision for its growth. Dream has already signed up a famous speaker for 2010 who rarely makes appearances at these conferences. If you use the code "erikarocks" when you buy your ticket, you'll get an additional $10 discount.
Also, let me add: you can support this blog and the continuation of free content here by purchasing tickets and other products here. I do not recommend very many products or events, and those I do recommend I do so with my whole heart. If you would like to see less advertising and more content here, you can support me in that by purchasing things like 21 Convention tickets and Holosync meditation through me. I will appreciate it greatly. The less sales pitchy I need to be to sell products and support the immense amount of work that goes into writing all these articles for you guys, the less sales pitchy the blog will be. So ... you help me, I'll help you. Let's make it a fun and helpful blog for everyone.
Lastly, in spite of my recent grumpiness, I do appreciate all of you and your support. Well, most of you :-p
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Another sexy photo
Continuing to do nothing. Meditating whilst envisioning how good it would feel to have the needed support. How many people we could help. How spectacular it could be. How much fun. :-)
Monday, October 26, 2009
Self-amusement
I still don't feel like posting any content. In fact, I've been feeling downright grumpy. It's okay though, as I am well aware that every seeming crisis will turn into a miracle, this one in the form of support.
Trying to be perfect is so overrated (not unlike sex, lol :-). My best miracles come out of crises, because so much energy shifts at once.
In the meantime, I'm going to amuse myself by posting sexy photos here.
For those who have asked (thank you), yes, the ebook is still coming. In fact, it's nearing completion.
Also in the development stage is a curriculum for teaching other coaches how I use EFT.
But honestly right now I just feel like kicking back, feeling sexy, imbibing lots of Bach flower essences, sipping a glass of Pinot Noir, and posting whatever photos light my fancy.
Trying to be perfect is so overrated (not unlike sex, lol :-). My best miracles come out of crises, because so much energy shifts at once.
In the meantime, I'm going to amuse myself by posting sexy photos here.
For those who have asked (thank you), yes, the ebook is still coming. In fact, it's nearing completion.
Also in the development stage is a curriculum for teaching other coaches how I use EFT.
But honestly right now I just feel like kicking back, feeling sexy, imbibing lots of Bach flower essences, sipping a glass of Pinot Noir, and posting whatever photos light my fancy.
Friday, October 23, 2009
Customized Tapping Scripts for Addressing Your Specific Problems
Hey everyone,
I receive a lot of questions from people requesting advice on how to use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or tapping) on their specific limiting beliefs or problems.
Yes, I can create entire scripts for you to follow when tapping. I will not only give you specific words to use, I will also give you pointers as to why we are using those particular words, so that you can then apply the principles to create more tapping scripts of your own.
All you need to do is sign up here for a personal email consultation and then email me your specific problem, including the following information:
1. When did this problem start?
2. Does it remind you of anything from earlier in your life? If it's a limiting belief, who taught it to you, and in what context?
3. What is this problem stopping you from doing in your life right now?
4. If there were a reason you don't want to get rid of this problem, what would it be?
I may ask you follow up questions in order to give you effective and tailored tapping suggestions.
Again, all you need to do is sign up for a personal email consultation here and then email me the information above.
Thanks,
Erika
I receive a lot of questions from people requesting advice on how to use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or tapping) on their specific limiting beliefs or problems.
Yes, I can create entire scripts for you to follow when tapping. I will not only give you specific words to use, I will also give you pointers as to why we are using those particular words, so that you can then apply the principles to create more tapping scripts of your own.
All you need to do is sign up here for a personal email consultation and then email me your specific problem, including the following information:
1. When did this problem start?
2. Does it remind you of anything from earlier in your life? If it's a limiting belief, who taught it to you, and in what context?
3. What is this problem stopping you from doing in your life right now?
4. If there were a reason you don't want to get rid of this problem, what would it be?
I may ask you follow up questions in order to give you effective and tailored tapping suggestions.
Again, all you need to do is sign up for a personal email consultation here and then email me the information above.
Thanks,
Erika
Thursday, October 22, 2009
What sets Erika's coaching apart (in a client's words)
Here is another testimonial:
I just had a session with Erika, and let me tell you, as someone who has listened to so many "pick up gurus" bullshit, that the guidance that Erika is offering is currently the best out there. No one in the community, really knows how to change one's belief system. Do you believe a few pick up lines and routines, can compensate for a wounded soul? I certainly tried, with no success at all. You have to release your internal conflict and trauma, and Erika is the best person to help you do that.
I was first a bit skeptical, to be truthful, about anyone's ability to find the core reasons for my problems with dating and relationships. Erika helped me remember meaningful experiences in my childhood, and even gave me tips for doing it myself. I highly recommend you take sessions with her, you can't possibly be disappointed. I'd like to thank Erika for her professionalism and her honest wish to help other people.
Also, more realizations from stepping back and going on strike:
1. I was not congruent with the old coaching rates because they were too low for what I'm offering and to meet my own needs. If guys can pay $3000 for a one-weekend LoveSystems bootcamp, they can surely pay my relatively modest rates to achieve real and lasting transformation of their lives. Thus, my inner self was rebelling. One of the great lessons in life is that no situation will be peaceful unless the needs of both people involved are being met, that is why I teach people to be always in touch with their own needs first. This way when we give, we are giving from a place of wholeness and joy, rather than obligation.
2. I was not congruent with the old coaching structure because the more people I worked with, the more I realized that people are needing more than just one session or even three sessions focused on a particular issue. The particular issues that people have been coming to me with are really a symptom and reflection of much deeper "inner game" or "life alignment" issues. Also, what shows up as a "dating" issue turns out to be affecting other areas of their lives, such as why they are staying in a financial situation that feels miserable to them, why they feel powerless to get out of their comfort zone and pursue their life passion instead of "whatever pays the bills." Thus, people need a lot more support than they receive from a few sessions. Under the new structure of coaching options, everyone I work with past the first session will be receiving the continuing spiritual support that they need to make these dramatic and lasting improvements to their lives.
3. I realized that a big part of my purpose here is to train other coaches in my rapid life transformation methodology, which produces faster real world results than any other methodology I've seen (and I've experimented a lot). I've had a large number of coaches send emails asking me to share my coaching knowledge with them. I'm happy to do that, and I've also realized that training them is not a conversation over lunch. The depth of knowledge that each of my Emotional Freedom Technique sessions is built on is pretty enormous. So I will happily accept other coaches into my coaching program, with the intention of enhancing their lives in the places they want to enhance, but with the larger goal of training them in how to do what I do with their own clients.
I just had a session with Erika, and let me tell you, as someone who has listened to so many "pick up gurus" bullshit, that the guidance that Erika is offering is currently the best out there. No one in the community, really knows how to change one's belief system. Do you believe a few pick up lines and routines, can compensate for a wounded soul? I certainly tried, with no success at all. You have to release your internal conflict and trauma, and Erika is the best person to help you do that.
I was first a bit skeptical, to be truthful, about anyone's ability to find the core reasons for my problems with dating and relationships. Erika helped me remember meaningful experiences in my childhood, and even gave me tips for doing it myself. I highly recommend you take sessions with her, you can't possibly be disappointed. I'd like to thank Erika for her professionalism and her honest wish to help other people.
Also, more realizations from stepping back and going on strike:
1. I was not congruent with the old coaching rates because they were too low for what I'm offering and to meet my own needs. If guys can pay $3000 for a one-weekend LoveSystems bootcamp, they can surely pay my relatively modest rates to achieve real and lasting transformation of their lives. Thus, my inner self was rebelling. One of the great lessons in life is that no situation will be peaceful unless the needs of both people involved are being met, that is why I teach people to be always in touch with their own needs first. This way when we give, we are giving from a place of wholeness and joy, rather than obligation.
2. I was not congruent with the old coaching structure because the more people I worked with, the more I realized that people are needing more than just one session or even three sessions focused on a particular issue. The particular issues that people have been coming to me with are really a symptom and reflection of much deeper "inner game" or "life alignment" issues. Also, what shows up as a "dating" issue turns out to be affecting other areas of their lives, such as why they are staying in a financial situation that feels miserable to them, why they feel powerless to get out of their comfort zone and pursue their life passion instead of "whatever pays the bills." Thus, people need a lot more support than they receive from a few sessions. Under the new structure of coaching options, everyone I work with past the first session will be receiving the continuing spiritual support that they need to make these dramatic and lasting improvements to their lives.
3. I realized that a big part of my purpose here is to train other coaches in my rapid life transformation methodology, which produces faster real world results than any other methodology I've seen (and I've experimented a lot). I've had a large number of coaches send emails asking me to share my coaching knowledge with them. I'm happy to do that, and I've also realized that training them is not a conversation over lunch. The depth of knowledge that each of my Emotional Freedom Technique sessions is built on is pretty enormous. So I will happily accept other coaches into my coaching program, with the intention of enhancing their lives in the places they want to enhance, but with the larger goal of training them in how to do what I do with their own clients.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Strike Day #5: New Coaching Options
Based on the guidance that I have received thus far, I have changed the structure of my coaching options dramatically.
I could be charging $500+/hour in my original profession without blinking an eye, and this coaching work is more valuable, so it does beg the question ...
From here on out, I will be working only with those clients who are so committed to dramatic change in their lives that they are willing to invest the time and money to make that happen.
The new options are here. I particularly recommend the monthly options. And if you do not see an option that suits your needs and schedule, please feel free to email me at erika.awakening@gmail.com to propose a custom option that would better meet your specific needs.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Strike Day #4: Spiritual teachers need support, too
It's amazing what one discovers by stepping back.
Today I discovered a firm "no" in myself. A "no" to giving even one iota more of free advice or Emotional Freedom Technique to anyone.
I notice such a huge need for empathy in this world. I am shocked at the number of people who write to me for free advice. Perhaps they don't fathom how many emails I receive seeking free advice, and that I do not currently have the support needed to keep up with that. Perhaps they don't fathom how much energy it takes to answer a two- to three-page email (which they wouldn't write if they bought themselves some EFT sessions, because no one who is healed needs that many words to express themselves.)
Perhaps they don't realize that if they offered even a $20 paypal, cumulatively, they would support this blog and everything could go on blissfully.
But the vast majority of them offer nothing. And then they wonder why they don't have what they want in their lives.
I notice how differently I felt about the guy from Israel who makes $150 USD per month and still offered me $20 for a session. How happily I am giving that to him. I'll value his $20 as highly as any full-priced session because his appreciation of what he is receiving is so clear.
I don't know what's going to happen to this blog. I don't want to make it a commercialized marketing vehicle. Yet I notice myself saying no to any further giving without sufficient support. I notice how clearly everything in me says no to that.
Spiritual teachers need support, too. I contributed tens of thousands of dollars to my coaches and healers because I recognized the value of their work. My readers are perfectly capable of doing the same.
Thus, if you would like a personalized response to your question, please sign up for a session or an email consultation here.
If you do not have funds, you are welcome to post your question on my forum. I answer questions there when I have free time, but I cannot guarantee an answer. Others may be able to help you, however, so I encourage you to check it out. And others will benefit from your question and the responses.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Strike Day #2: I will step back and let Him lead the way
I feel amused by the alarm expressed by many about me being on strike. There is nothing wrong. Everything is perfect. I am doing as I'm being directed.
Speaking of which, since I'm on strike, I'll let the Course speak to this question:
"Strictly speaking, words play no part at all in healing. The motivating factor is prayer, or asking. ...
"Is the teacher of God, then, to avoid the use of words in his teaching? No, indeed! There are many who must be reached through words, being as yet unable to hear in silence. The teacher of God must, however, learn to use words in a new way. Gradually, he learns how to let his words be chosen for him by ceasing to decide for himself what he will say. This process is merely a special case of the lesson in the workbook that says, 'I will step back and let Him lead the way.' The teacher of God accepts the words which are offered him, and gives as he receives. He does not control the direction of his speaking. He listens and hears and speaks.
"A major hindrance in this aspect of his learning is the teacher of God's fear about the validity of what he hears. And what he hears may indeed be quite startling. It may also seem to be quite irrelevant to the presented problem as he perceives it, and may, in fact, confront the teacher with a situation that appears to be very embarrassing to him. All these are judgments that have no value. They are his own, coming from a shabby self-perception which he would leave behind. Judge not the words that come to you, but offer them in confidence. They are far wiser than your own. God's teachers have God's Word behind their symbols. And He Himself gives to the words they use the power of His Spirit, raising them from meaningless symbols to the Call of Heaven itself."
Is this strike a situation that "appears to be very embarrassing" to me? Perhaps. But this is what intuition directed me to do.
This is what I teach to those of my clients who are ready to hear. We get nowhere in this world listening to "advice." The only reliable sources of guidance are our own intuition and the intuition of others who are tapped in to the infinite wisdom.
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or tapping) sessions will continue unabated while I'm on strike.
Saturday, October 17, 2009
I'm on strike, God
Dear God,
I deeply appreciate you sending me some tech support. I feel delighted by this gift. Thank you :-)
That said, I also asked for a partner.
This is to let you know, God, that I am officially on strike now. I'm tired of doing this work by myself.
I'm not going to do anything but the basics of subsistence until you send me my holy relationship. I realize this holy relationship won't be exclusive, and that's okay with me. But I'm tired of doing this spiritual teaching by myself. Try as I might, my entire self is saying "no" to the current situation.
I'm ready for my holy relationship. If you don't send it now, I will understand. You are far wiser than me. But I won't be doing anything further until it arrives.
Thank you for considering my request.
Respectfully,
Erika
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Inaugural post at the new blog
Hey everyone,
Wow, stunned silence after that last post? You all are not usually left speechless, lol :-) I must say I am enjoying the heck out of this new Mac. It is soooo beautiful. So sleek, so easy on the eye. This has got to be one of the most fun toys I have ever received, and I'm only getting started! I told you all that EFT pays for itself, but so few believed me ;-)
I feel delighted, like this:
Setting an intention to start alternating writing articles here and over at the new blog, Spiritual Seduction. I put up the inaugural post tonight, about meditation, EFT, and clearing the static out of our vibes (response to a reader's question).
Meanwhile, if you enjoy this blog, I would be so appreciative if you would stumble your favorite articles. This involves going on StumbleUpon, joining (it's free), and starting to add articles from this blog to their database. You'll also gain access to their wonderful smorgasbord of articles by other authors. Help me spread the word about liberating ourselves from the egoic mind into our full power and glory by stumbling Awakening from the Dream :-)
Love and happy dreams,
Erika
Wow, stunned silence after that last post? You all are not usually left speechless, lol :-) I must say I am enjoying the heck out of this new Mac. It is soooo beautiful. So sleek, so easy on the eye. This has got to be one of the most fun toys I have ever received, and I'm only getting started! I told you all that EFT pays for itself, but so few believed me ;-)
I feel delighted, like this:
Setting an intention to start alternating writing articles here and over at the new blog, Spiritual Seduction. I put up the inaugural post tonight, about meditation, EFT, and clearing the static out of our vibes (response to a reader's question).
Meanwhile, if you enjoy this blog, I would be so appreciative if you would stumble your favorite articles. This involves going on StumbleUpon, joining (it's free), and starting to add articles from this blog to their database. You'll also gain access to their wonderful smorgasbord of articles by other authors. Help me spread the word about liberating ourselves from the egoic mind into our full power and glory by stumbling Awakening from the Dream :-)
Love and happy dreams,
Erika
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Giving It Forward
Notice how when someone gives us something really generous, it inspires us to give too? I was reminded of that this week.
Here's what happened. Two days ago my computer crashed. Almost simultaneously, my Spiritual Seduction website went down. Not good news for a blogger girl. If you've been waiting on emails, Skype, or blog posts, please be patient with me.
Perhaps you'll recall that I had already asked God for help with technical support issues. To the untrained eye, my computer melting down (and simultaneously my website having issues) might look like setbacks.
But not to the eye trained to look for the miracle behind the misfortune. Not to the Jedi mind. It's such a habit for me now ... ah, something "bad" happened, I wonder what amazing surprise God has in store for me.
As for the website issue, Christopher Clai, a guy I met at the 21 Convention, had it back up within hours
I recommend him highly for his expertise with technical issues. You can see his website here. He has fixed several stubborn technical problems for me in very short order.
As for the computer issue, well, Mysterious Benefactor Guy tonight dropped off, at my doorstep, as a one-hundred percent no-strings-attached gift, a MacBook Pro. He also gave me a package to go into the Apple store to receive one-on-one training, a three-year Apple Care contract, and Office for the Mac.
Thank you, MB Guy :-)
Ask and you will receive. Especially if your asking is super powered by tapping.
Which means, at this moment, I am typing on a brand new computer, and not only did I not spend a penny, I didn't move an inch.
These, ladies and gentlemen, are the miracles that will start happening for you ALL THE TIME when you get on your path and clear out the blocks that are stopping you from having everything you want.
Feeling deeply inspired by this gift, I now want to "pay it forward."
As an expression of my gratitude to Mysterious Benefactor Guy and the Universe, I am going to offer Emotional Freedom Technique sessions to at least three people at whatever price you feel you can pay given your life circumstances right now. This means that if you've been feeling like my EFT work is "out of your reach," this is your chance. All you need to do is email me at erika.awakening@gmail.com with one paragraph explaining why you would be one of the people to benefit most from this offer, and what you feel comfortable paying, whatever that is. Feel free to offer other, non-monetary things as well, such as "I can pay $50 and I'll also help you find a new dating website where you can talk about EFT." Whatever feels good to you. If demand is high enough, I may offer this to more than three people.
If you can afford my rates, please allow people who may be less financially comfortable than you take advantage of this offer.
Take advantage of me now, while I'm feeling generous :-)
It's your choice. Are you happy with your belief system, or do you prefer a belief system that creates miracles for you and those you love on a regular basis?
Here's what happened. Two days ago my computer crashed. Almost simultaneously, my Spiritual Seduction website went down. Not good news for a blogger girl. If you've been waiting on emails, Skype, or blog posts, please be patient with me.
Perhaps you'll recall that I had already asked God for help with technical support issues. To the untrained eye, my computer melting down (and simultaneously my website having issues) might look like setbacks.
But not to the eye trained to look for the miracle behind the misfortune. Not to the Jedi mind. It's such a habit for me now ... ah, something "bad" happened, I wonder what amazing surprise God has in store for me.
As for the website issue, Christopher Clai, a guy I met at the 21 Convention, had it back up within hours
I recommend him highly for his expertise with technical issues. You can see his website here. He has fixed several stubborn technical problems for me in very short order.
As for the computer issue, well, Mysterious Benefactor Guy tonight dropped off, at my doorstep, as a one-hundred percent no-strings-attached gift, a MacBook Pro. He also gave me a package to go into the Apple store to receive one-on-one training, a three-year Apple Care contract, and Office for the Mac.
Thank you, MB Guy :-)
Ask and you will receive. Especially if your asking is super powered by tapping.
Which means, at this moment, I am typing on a brand new computer, and not only did I not spend a penny, I didn't move an inch.
These, ladies and gentlemen, are the miracles that will start happening for you ALL THE TIME when you get on your path and clear out the blocks that are stopping you from having everything you want.
Feeling deeply inspired by this gift, I now want to "pay it forward."
As an expression of my gratitude to Mysterious Benefactor Guy and the Universe, I am going to offer Emotional Freedom Technique sessions to at least three people at whatever price you feel you can pay given your life circumstances right now. This means that if you've been feeling like my EFT work is "out of your reach," this is your chance. All you need to do is email me at erika.awakening@gmail.com with one paragraph explaining why you would be one of the people to benefit most from this offer, and what you feel comfortable paying, whatever that is. Feel free to offer other, non-monetary things as well, such as "I can pay $50 and I'll also help you find a new dating website where you can talk about EFT." Whatever feels good to you. If demand is high enough, I may offer this to more than three people.
If you can afford my rates, please allow people who may be less financially comfortable than you take advantage of this offer.
Take advantage of me now, while I'm feeling generous :-)
It's your choice. Are you happy with your belief system, or do you prefer a belief system that creates miracles for you and those you love on a regular basis?
Monday, October 12, 2009
Did you buy into it?
I know I did.
The search for the "special" relationship.
Now at the risk of offending all my readers who are in relationships, lol, I would like to talk about this openly.
I don't have all the answers. I'm in a space of "not knowing" about this issue.
But I'd like to start asking some questions.
There's a huge marketplace built around the idea of attracting and building a relationship with that one "special" person.
But where do we see that relationship in actual reality?
Now there may be exceptions, but for the most part what I see are:
(1) people unhappily pursuing the ideal of the special relationship, or
(2) people unhappily living within a special relationship.
I even see people pretending to be happily living within special relationships, but they don't sound very congruent. When I hear the details, my response is often, "wow that sounds pretty boring" or "wow, is that really all there is?" or "wow, I'd rather be single."
What if the whole premise is wrong?
That's what A Course in Miracles (ACIM) teaches.
It is in the special relationship, born of the hidden wish for special love from God, that the ego's hatred triumphs. For the special relationship is the renunciation of the Love of God, and the attempt to secure for the self the specialness that He denied. T-16.V.4. The Holy Spirit knows that completion lies first in union, and then in the extension of union. T-16.V.5. The special relationship is a strange and unnatural ego device for joining hell and Heaven, and making them indistinguishable. What better example could there be of the ego's maxim, "Seek but do not find"? T-16.V.6. This "self" seeks the relationship to make itself complete. Each partner tries to sacrifice the self he does not want for one he thinks he would prefer. T-16.V.7. Whoever seems to possess a special self is "loved" for what can be taken from him. T-16.V.8. The conviction of littleness lies in every special relationship, for only the deprived could value specialness. T-16.V.9. God must die so you can live. And it is this theme that is acted out in the special relationship. T-16.V.10.
Love is content, and not form of any kind. The special relationship is a ritual of form, aimed at raising the form to take the place of God at the expense of content. There is no meaning in the form, and there will never be. The special relationship must be recognized for what it is; a senseless ritual in which strength is extracted from the death of God, and invested in His killer as the sign that form has triumphed over content, and love has lost its meaning. Would you want this to be possible, even apart from its evident impossibility? T-16.V.12 See in the special relationship nothing more than a meaningless attempt to raise other gods before Him. In the name of your completion you do not want this. T-16.V.13. ...
The special relationship is a device for limiting your self to a body, and for limiting your perception of others to theirs. T-16.VI.4. When two individuals seek to become one, they are trying to decrease their magnitude. Each would deny his power, for the separate union excludes the universe. Far more is left outside than would be taken in, for God is left without and nothing taken in. T-16.VI.5. It is impossible to let the past go without relinquishing the special relationship. For the special relationship is an attempt to re-enact the past and change it; a way in which you seek to restore your wounded self-esteem. T-16.VII.1. In the holy instant it is understood that the past is gone, and the stillness and the peace of now enfold you in perfect gentleness. T-16.VII.6.
What if being tied down in a monogamous relationship is spiritually problematic because it denies our connection to the All that Is?
I'm not pretending to have the answers about this one. ACIM talks about another option (the holy relationship), but I'm not sure what that looks like. I feel confident it doesn't look like pain, suffering, and strife, however. I feel confident that it does not involve separation or exclusion.
I feel much closer to joy and truth when I'm dating a lot of guys than when I narrow my interest down to one. Am I the only woman who feels that way, deep down? I doubt it.
Thoughts?
The search for the "special" relationship.
Now at the risk of offending all my readers who are in relationships, lol, I would like to talk about this openly.
I don't have all the answers. I'm in a space of "not knowing" about this issue.
But I'd like to start asking some questions.
There's a huge marketplace built around the idea of attracting and building a relationship with that one "special" person.
But where do we see that relationship in actual reality?
Now there may be exceptions, but for the most part what I see are:
(1) people unhappily pursuing the ideal of the special relationship, or
(2) people unhappily living within a special relationship.
I even see people pretending to be happily living within special relationships, but they don't sound very congruent. When I hear the details, my response is often, "wow that sounds pretty boring" or "wow, is that really all there is?" or "wow, I'd rather be single."
What if the whole premise is wrong?
That's what A Course in Miracles (ACIM) teaches.
It is in the special relationship, born of the hidden wish for special love from God, that the ego's hatred triumphs. For the special relationship is the renunciation of the Love of God, and the attempt to secure for the self the specialness that He denied. T-16.V.4. The Holy Spirit knows that completion lies first in union, and then in the extension of union. T-16.V.5. The special relationship is a strange and unnatural ego device for joining hell and Heaven, and making them indistinguishable. What better example could there be of the ego's maxim, "Seek but do not find"? T-16.V.6. This "self" seeks the relationship to make itself complete. Each partner tries to sacrifice the self he does not want for one he thinks he would prefer. T-16.V.7. Whoever seems to possess a special self is "loved" for what can be taken from him. T-16.V.8. The conviction of littleness lies in every special relationship, for only the deprived could value specialness. T-16.V.9. God must die so you can live. And it is this theme that is acted out in the special relationship. T-16.V.10.
Love is content, and not form of any kind. The special relationship is a ritual of form, aimed at raising the form to take the place of God at the expense of content. There is no meaning in the form, and there will never be. The special relationship must be recognized for what it is; a senseless ritual in which strength is extracted from the death of God, and invested in His killer as the sign that form has triumphed over content, and love has lost its meaning. Would you want this to be possible, even apart from its evident impossibility? T-16.V.12 See in the special relationship nothing more than a meaningless attempt to raise other gods before Him. In the name of your completion you do not want this. T-16.V.13. ...
The special relationship is a device for limiting your self to a body, and for limiting your perception of others to theirs. T-16.VI.4. When two individuals seek to become one, they are trying to decrease their magnitude. Each would deny his power, for the separate union excludes the universe. Far more is left outside than would be taken in, for God is left without and nothing taken in. T-16.VI.5. It is impossible to let the past go without relinquishing the special relationship. For the special relationship is an attempt to re-enact the past and change it; a way in which you seek to restore your wounded self-esteem. T-16.VII.1. In the holy instant it is understood that the past is gone, and the stillness and the peace of now enfold you in perfect gentleness. T-16.VII.6.
What if being tied down in a monogamous relationship is spiritually problematic because it denies our connection to the All that Is?
I'm not pretending to have the answers about this one. ACIM talks about another option (the holy relationship), but I'm not sure what that looks like. I feel confident it doesn't look like pain, suffering, and strife, however. I feel confident that it does not involve separation or exclusion.
I feel much closer to joy and truth when I'm dating a lot of guys than when I narrow my interest down to one. Am I the only woman who feels that way, deep down? I doubt it.
Thoughts?
Sunday, October 11, 2009
The Sinns of A-Condom
This post is about letting go ... of beliefs and values that no longer serve us.
I've been promising Part 2 of the "Why I don't like condoms" post for a while.
Last night, Johnny and I were watching George Lopez and Jennifer Lopez in Out of Sight. (A movie every aspiring PUA must watch. The sexual tension is so hot.)
I already set the record straight about the original condom post during my interview with Barry Kirkey (Episode 84, it's available again to watch this weekend), but Johnny said I needed to write another, clarifying post to make sure everyone knows what I really meant.
I wasn't giving anyone advice. I trust other people to make their own choices.
I was sharing my own personal experience. I don't like condoms. I don't like how they feel, I don't like how they make it easy not to communicate about the real issues. I don't like doing things halfway. It's way too easy to use a condom and not make sure both people are clear about what they want out of the encounter. That all too often leads to misunderstandings and strife.
It does feel amusing that publicly I've been lambasted about that post, and privately people take me aside and say, "I don't like them either. Sex really does feel much more intimate without them." Etc.
What I'm holding out for is a guy who's willing to go all the way with me. That means no condoms, no pulling out, no BS. An intention of continuity. If I get pregnant, so be it. It's not going to happen unless it's meant to happen. I'll sign a waiver absolving him of any and all obligations to me, because I would never want to receive anything from anyone out of a sense of obligation. I only want to receive what men want to give me with their whole hearts.
"Love is freedom. To look for it by placing yourself in bondage is to separate yourself from it. ... As you release, so will you be released."
Otherwise, I love my abstinence. It feels uncomplicated and free.
I'm not giving advice. I trust other people to make their own choices. There might even be situations where, if I were having sex (which I'm not), I might use them for their placebo effect. I'm only inviting people to consider the possibility that condoms, when used as a defense, actually reinforce the possibility of sickness in the mind.
Thought creates everything we see. Sickness is created and healed in the mind. When we refuse to see the possibility of sickness anymore, sickness will disappear.
"In my defenselessness my safety lies."
Meanwhile, for those who wonder why I'm so provocative sometimes with my posts, consider this: the only way to make our belief systems fully conscious and bring them back under our conscious control is to prod unconscious fears to the surface to be cleared. Provocation is extremely useful for that purpose. When we take conventional wisdom as a given without questioning it, we are giving our power away.
"To learn this course requires willingness to question every value that you hold."
I've been promising Part 2 of the "Why I don't like condoms" post for a while.
Last night, Johnny and I were watching George Lopez and Jennifer Lopez in Out of Sight. (A movie every aspiring PUA must watch. The sexual tension is so hot.)
I already set the record straight about the original condom post during my interview with Barry Kirkey (Episode 84, it's available again to watch this weekend), but Johnny said I needed to write another, clarifying post to make sure everyone knows what I really meant.
I wasn't giving anyone advice. I trust other people to make their own choices.
I was sharing my own personal experience. I don't like condoms. I don't like how they feel, I don't like how they make it easy not to communicate about the real issues. I don't like doing things halfway. It's way too easy to use a condom and not make sure both people are clear about what they want out of the encounter. That all too often leads to misunderstandings and strife.
It does feel amusing that publicly I've been lambasted about that post, and privately people take me aside and say, "I don't like them either. Sex really does feel much more intimate without them." Etc.
What I'm holding out for is a guy who's willing to go all the way with me. That means no condoms, no pulling out, no BS. An intention of continuity. If I get pregnant, so be it. It's not going to happen unless it's meant to happen. I'll sign a waiver absolving him of any and all obligations to me, because I would never want to receive anything from anyone out of a sense of obligation. I only want to receive what men want to give me with their whole hearts.
"Love is freedom. To look for it by placing yourself in bondage is to separate yourself from it. ... As you release, so will you be released."
Otherwise, I love my abstinence. It feels uncomplicated and free.
I'm not giving advice. I trust other people to make their own choices. There might even be situations where, if I were having sex (which I'm not), I might use them for their placebo effect. I'm only inviting people to consider the possibility that condoms, when used as a defense, actually reinforce the possibility of sickness in the mind.
Thought creates everything we see. Sickness is created and healed in the mind. When we refuse to see the possibility of sickness anymore, sickness will disappear.
"In my defenselessness my safety lies."
Meanwhile, for those who wonder why I'm so provocative sometimes with my posts, consider this: the only way to make our belief systems fully conscious and bring them back under our conscious control is to prod unconscious fears to the surface to be cleared. Provocation is extremely useful for that purpose. When we take conventional wisdom as a given without questioning it, we are giving our power away.
"To learn this course requires willingness to question every value that you hold."
Friday, October 9, 2009
Will there be an Erika LR this weekend?
It's looking promising.
He was a sleeper. Wooing me for months with one word text messages. Lol :-)
Tonight we're going out with Player Girl and Czech Girl.
And sex is definitely on the table.
But first we need to see if our expectations are aligned. So we are going to talk ... beforehand ... like grown-ups.
Boys run away from conversations like this. Men relish this kind of conversation as an opportunity to see if both people's preferences can be satisfied simultaneously.
Frankly, I blame this whole thing on Barry. That interview got me all frisky. Hehe, I hear that the interview will be back up on his site this weekend, for anyone who missed it the first time around.
Stay tuned :-)
He was a sleeper. Wooing me for months with one word text messages. Lol :-)
Tonight we're going out with Player Girl and Czech Girl.
And sex is definitely on the table.
But first we need to see if our expectations are aligned. So we are going to talk ... beforehand ... like grown-ups.
Boys run away from conversations like this. Men relish this kind of conversation as an opportunity to see if both people's preferences can be satisfied simultaneously.
Frankly, I blame this whole thing on Barry. That interview got me all frisky. Hehe, I hear that the interview will be back up on his site this weekend, for anyone who missed it the first time around.
Stay tuned :-)
How dissociating from feelings sabotages your love life, and what to do about it
For those who are curious about the PUA World Summit, which was awesome, stay tuned because I'm planning to write an article this weekend. Among other things, I want to tell you about my brief tapping encounter with Marni Wing from the Wing Girl Method. She is a really cool girl, and one of the few other female coaches in the seduction community. Full report this weekend.
Also, I'm seeing Johnny tonight and will report back on that :-)
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For now, though, I want to talk about a theme that has been coming up with some of my clients, and which I never hear talked about in the community: Dissociation.
Now, I'm not a doctor or therapist, and when I use the term "dissociation," although it's related to how that term is used in psychology, I'm really talking about a spiritual idea.
Dissociation is the original separation from God. A Course in Miracles has the following to say about dissociation:
Can you be separated from your identification and be at peace? Dissociation is NOT a solution; it is a delusion. The delusional believe that truth will assail them, and so they do not see it because they prefer the delusion. Judging truth as something they do not want, they perceive deception and block knowledge. Help them by offering them your unified will on their behalf, as I am offering you mine on yours. Alone we can do nothing, but together our wills fuse into something whose power is far beyond the power of its separate parts.
By not being separate, the Will of God is established in ours and as ours. This will is invincible because it is undivided. The undivided will of the Sonship is the perfect creator, being wholly in the likeness of God, Whose Will it is. You cannot be exempt from it, if you are to understand what it is and what you are. By separating your will from mine, you are exempting yourself from the Will of God which is yourself.
Dissociation is how we created the Shadow Self, which now continues to haunt us until we make it conscious again and reclaim our power over it. But the way dissociation manifests in practical terms is two-fold:
(1) As separation from ourselves (the suppression of painful feelings and thoughts, which are then projected outward onto the world); and
(2) As separation from other people and the world (if we are not intimate with ourselves, it is impossible to be intimate with anyone else).
If you are trying to improve your love life, but are unwilling to feel and face your darker feelings and thoughts, your situation is indeed hopeless. The only way to heal the separation between ourselves and other people is to go DEEP INTO THE DARKNESS, become present with it and heal it, and emerge whole and healed. The farther along in this process we go, the higher our capacity for intimacy and the more our presence heals others.
Successful pickup artists (PUAs) and Sirens are the ones who have done the most self healing. People naturally want to be around them because their vibe is unified, congruent, and literally HEALS other people.
Anything we are avoiding owns us. It is impossible to escape from suffering by avoiding people or ideas that make us uncomfortable. This is why I embrace being triggered. Every time we get triggered, it is an opportunity to heal something in ourselves.
If we shut out the uncomfortable feelings, we are perpetuating dissociation. Those uncomfortable feelings don't go away. They fester in the darkness and feed the Shadow Self. We will see more darkness in our projections (this shows up as people and situations that seem to want to attack us).
In Matrix 3, Neo finally realized that he was never going to "win" by attacking Agent Smith. Attack only perpetuates the dark side. The only way out of this mess is integration. Integration is healing. We must face the Agent Smith inside us and integrate him into our whole self.
When we do that, we become all powerful.
We are finally seeing the truth. That there is nothing outside of ourselves, that we created everything we see, and as its Creator, we have dominion over it.
"Nothing outside yourself can save you. Nothing outside yourself can give you peace."
"There is nothing outside you. That is what you must ultimately learn, for it is the realization that the Kingdom of Heaven is restored to you."
- A Course in Miracles
For more on my teachings about making the Shadow Self conscious and reclaiming our power over it, please view my free video footage from the 21 Convention by going here. My coaching page is here.
Also, I'm seeing Johnny tonight and will report back on that :-)
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For now, though, I want to talk about a theme that has been coming up with some of my clients, and which I never hear talked about in the community: Dissociation.
Now, I'm not a doctor or therapist, and when I use the term "dissociation," although it's related to how that term is used in psychology, I'm really talking about a spiritual idea.
Dissociation is the original separation from God. A Course in Miracles has the following to say about dissociation:
Can you be separated from your identification and be at peace? Dissociation is NOT a solution; it is a delusion. The delusional believe that truth will assail them, and so they do not see it because they prefer the delusion. Judging truth as something they do not want, they perceive deception and block knowledge. Help them by offering them your unified will on their behalf, as I am offering you mine on yours. Alone we can do nothing, but together our wills fuse into something whose power is far beyond the power of its separate parts.
By not being separate, the Will of God is established in ours and as ours. This will is invincible because it is undivided. The undivided will of the Sonship is the perfect creator, being wholly in the likeness of God, Whose Will it is. You cannot be exempt from it, if you are to understand what it is and what you are. By separating your will from mine, you are exempting yourself from the Will of God which is yourself.
Dissociation is how we created the Shadow Self, which now continues to haunt us until we make it conscious again and reclaim our power over it. But the way dissociation manifests in practical terms is two-fold:
(1) As separation from ourselves (the suppression of painful feelings and thoughts, which are then projected outward onto the world); and
(2) As separation from other people and the world (if we are not intimate with ourselves, it is impossible to be intimate with anyone else).
If you are trying to improve your love life, but are unwilling to feel and face your darker feelings and thoughts, your situation is indeed hopeless. The only way to heal the separation between ourselves and other people is to go DEEP INTO THE DARKNESS, become present with it and heal it, and emerge whole and healed. The farther along in this process we go, the higher our capacity for intimacy and the more our presence heals others.
Successful pickup artists (PUAs) and Sirens are the ones who have done the most self healing. People naturally want to be around them because their vibe is unified, congruent, and literally HEALS other people.
Anything we are avoiding owns us. It is impossible to escape from suffering by avoiding people or ideas that make us uncomfortable. This is why I embrace being triggered. Every time we get triggered, it is an opportunity to heal something in ourselves.
If we shut out the uncomfortable feelings, we are perpetuating dissociation. Those uncomfortable feelings don't go away. They fester in the darkness and feed the Shadow Self. We will see more darkness in our projections (this shows up as people and situations that seem to want to attack us).
In Matrix 3, Neo finally realized that he was never going to "win" by attacking Agent Smith. Attack only perpetuates the dark side. The only way out of this mess is integration. Integration is healing. We must face the Agent Smith inside us and integrate him into our whole self.
When we do that, we become all powerful.
We are finally seeing the truth. That there is nothing outside of ourselves, that we created everything we see, and as its Creator, we have dominion over it.
"Nothing outside yourself can save you. Nothing outside yourself can give you peace."
"There is nothing outside you. That is what you must ultimately learn, for it is the realization that the Kingdom of Heaven is restored to you."
- A Course in Miracles
For more on my teachings about making the Shadow Self conscious and reclaiming our power over it, please view my free video footage from the 21 Convention by going here. My coaching page is here.
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Erika's Interview on Barry Kirkey Radio Show
If you go to Barry's site here and click on Season 2: Episode 84, you can hear the whole thing. We talk about a lot of topics including my adventures with Savoy, Sinn, Johnny, Hypnotica, and Steve P.
Special thanks to Janene for coming on the show so I'd feel more comfortable with another girl there. Special thanks to Barry for being sweet to me, apologizing for the travesties done to me and my cats on his forum, and for the amazing sound effects.
We had a lot of fun, even if my voice did feel a little "froggy." Some sort of throat chakra thing going on, but that's another post entirely.
Good night. Enjoy! :-)
Special thanks to Janene for coming on the show so I'd feel more comfortable with another girl there. Special thanks to Barry for being sweet to me, apologizing for the travesties done to me and my cats on his forum, and for the amazing sound effects.
We had a lot of fun, even if my voice did feel a little "froggy." Some sort of throat chakra thing going on, but that's another post entirely.
Good night. Enjoy! :-)
Dear God
Dear God,
I wanted to write to You to let You know that I am going on strike.
For the most part, I have been feeling very happy with our relationship and our work together.
There are a few things that are not really working for me though.
I love doing EFT sessions, writing articles, and giving speeches like I did at the 21 Convention and the PUA Summit.
I really don't want to do any marketing or technical stuff. It's just not my thing. I don't want to work on building my "list" or writing advertisements or figuring out Google ad words or listening to the 30-day challenge or creating affiliate pages. I don't like it, I get bogged down in the details, and I'm not going to do it.
Also, I don't want to work by myself anymore. I feel unsupported. I feel lonely working by myself, and I'm not going to do it anymore. I would really appreciate if you would send a partner or partners who enjoy doing marketing and technical stuff so I can focus on what I enjoy. I'm sure we'd make a good team.
God, if you don't send me a partner(s) to handle the marketing and technical stuff, I will understand. You are far wiser than me. But please understand that I will not be doing those things anymore because I don't FEEL like doing them. So if You don't send me some help in those departments, it's not going to get done. We'll just carry on with articles, EFT sessions, and speeches, but I don't know how the word is going to get out there.
Thanks for listening and considering my request.
Respectfully,
Erika
I wanted to write to You to let You know that I am going on strike.
For the most part, I have been feeling very happy with our relationship and our work together.
There are a few things that are not really working for me though.
I love doing EFT sessions, writing articles, and giving speeches like I did at the 21 Convention and the PUA Summit.
I really don't want to do any marketing or technical stuff. It's just not my thing. I don't want to work on building my "list" or writing advertisements or figuring out Google ad words or listening to the 30-day challenge or creating affiliate pages. I don't like it, I get bogged down in the details, and I'm not going to do it.
Also, I don't want to work by myself anymore. I feel unsupported. I feel lonely working by myself, and I'm not going to do it anymore. I would really appreciate if you would send a partner or partners who enjoy doing marketing and technical stuff so I can focus on what I enjoy. I'm sure we'd make a good team.
God, if you don't send me a partner(s) to handle the marketing and technical stuff, I will understand. You are far wiser than me. But please understand that I will not be doing those things anymore because I don't FEEL like doing them. So if You don't send me some help in those departments, it's not going to get done. We'll just carry on with articles, EFT sessions, and speeches, but I don't know how the word is going to get out there.
Thanks for listening and considering my request.
Respectfully,
Erika
EFT Expectation Management
In response to a few people's questions, I am offering this in furtherance of EFT expectation management.
Emotional Freedom Technique frequently creates miracles. People are often shocked at how much better they feel after a session, or about how a relationship dramatically shifts for the better, etc. (see some testimonials here).
Sometimes people then feel disappointed if the miraculous effect seems to "fade" over the following few weeks. Folks, this is par for the course. It does not mean that EFT did not work. It means that new aspects of the issue are coming to the surface to be cleared. I advocate EFT because it's the fastest method I've ever found for profound transformation. That said, this is still a process. It took a lifetime to accumulate your baggage, and it's not going to disappear overnight. This is why I encourage people to tap every single day, to make a commitment to themselves to change what's not working in their lives.
Let me give you an example. I once had debilitating chronic shoulder pain. It was so intense that it went all the way up my arms and back, and I couldn't sit in normal chairs or do normal tasks. Western medicine was powerless to help me. Even painkillers were useless.
When I started doing EFT on emotional issues a few years ago, I noticed that the pain would subside. First it would disappear for a few hours and then return. Later, it started to disappear for a few days at a time. As I continued using EFT, the pain also started shrinking, until it was not in my back or arms at all but only my shoulder. Today, because I was persistent with my use of EFT, the pain is virtually gone. It flares up maybe once per month and is easy to clear with EFT. I cannot possibly express what a huge relief it is to not have that chronic pain anymore.
Thus, if your gains with EFT seem not to "stick," please do not be discouraged. It only means that there is further emotional baggage to clear. Not only do I guide my clients in the sessions they do with me, I teach them how to use EFT in an effective way so that they can use it on their own, every single day. For best results, work with an experienced EFT practitioner at least once per week. An EFT expert is far more likely to see your blind spots than you are.
This is how our lives change, one limiting belief at a time.
Emotional Freedom Technique frequently creates miracles. People are often shocked at how much better they feel after a session, or about how a relationship dramatically shifts for the better, etc. (see some testimonials here).
Sometimes people then feel disappointed if the miraculous effect seems to "fade" over the following few weeks. Folks, this is par for the course. It does not mean that EFT did not work. It means that new aspects of the issue are coming to the surface to be cleared. I advocate EFT because it's the fastest method I've ever found for profound transformation. That said, this is still a process. It took a lifetime to accumulate your baggage, and it's not going to disappear overnight. This is why I encourage people to tap every single day, to make a commitment to themselves to change what's not working in their lives.
Let me give you an example. I once had debilitating chronic shoulder pain. It was so intense that it went all the way up my arms and back, and I couldn't sit in normal chairs or do normal tasks. Western medicine was powerless to help me. Even painkillers were useless.
When I started doing EFT on emotional issues a few years ago, I noticed that the pain would subside. First it would disappear for a few hours and then return. Later, it started to disappear for a few days at a time. As I continued using EFT, the pain also started shrinking, until it was not in my back or arms at all but only my shoulder. Today, because I was persistent with my use of EFT, the pain is virtually gone. It flares up maybe once per month and is easy to clear with EFT. I cannot possibly express what a huge relief it is to not have that chronic pain anymore.
Thus, if your gains with EFT seem not to "stick," please do not be discouraged. It only means that there is further emotional baggage to clear. Not only do I guide my clients in the sessions they do with me, I teach them how to use EFT in an effective way so that they can use it on their own, every single day. For best results, work with an experienced EFT practitioner at least once per week. An EFT expert is far more likely to see your blind spots than you are.
This is how our lives change, one limiting belief at a time.
When the chips are down ...
I feel discouraged today. Like giving up, actually. I feel unappreciated and sad.
My dad sent me this video yesterday. It may not seem to have anything to do with what we talk about here, but then again it really does.
My dad sent me this video yesterday. It may not seem to have anything to do with what we talk about here, but then again it really does.
Sunday, October 4, 2009
Another EFT Testimonial
Here's another Emotional Freedom Technique testimonial ...
This fellow came to me with frustrations because he wasn't able to move relationships with women beyond a platonic level and he was feeling what I will call "socially stifled." He had a lot of fear of what others would think of him. He just sent this to me:
hey, I think its been around a week or so since my EFT session we did. Going through the procedure of EFT in the coaching session was equally as helpful as the actual EFT, as I have been chipping away at blocks for the last week after the appointment. Immediately after, I found I'd be more leading, even if it was just through means of conversation. A couple of days after the session, I moved into university. Weather it's coincidental or not, I'll never know, but in a matter of days I have founded deep, loving friendships with people, one of my flat-mates even commented on how it felt as though she had a new set of brothers and sisters. I feel so much more at ease socially than I did before as well, and I wouldn't have even thought about
From here on out, I'm going to continue with the EFT, and meditating daily.
THANKS!! :)
To sign up for a session like this, go here.
This fellow came to me with frustrations because he wasn't able to move relationships with women beyond a platonic level and he was feeling what I will call "socially stifled." He had a lot of fear of what others would think of him. He just sent this to me:
hey, I think its been around a week or so since my EFT session we did. Going through the procedure of EFT in the coaching session was equally as helpful as the actual EFT, as I have been chipping away at blocks for the last week after the appointment. Immediately after, I found I'd be more leading, even if it was just through means of conversation. A couple of days after the session, I moved into university. Weather it's coincidental or not, I'll never know, but in a matter of days I have founded deep, loving friendships with people, one of my flat-mates even commented on how it felt as though she had a new set of brothers and sisters. I feel so much more at ease socially than I did before as well, and I wouldn't have even thought about
From here on out, I'm going to continue with the EFT, and meditating daily.
THANKS!! :)
To sign up for a session like this, go here.
Saturday, October 3, 2009
"Hooking up" versus "Banging"
Today I'm hanging out with the infamous Johnny up in Tahoe. We are having a good time, but he says many guys in the community are under the impression that I have "banged" a bunch of gurus.
For clarification, I have been banged by one and only one guru: Entropy.
The rest have been, at most, hooking up. In my world, "hooking up" usually means making out.
This also pretty much makes a moot point out of Sinn's BS about condoms. I am abstinent. You really think a tiny latex barrier is going to protect you from that avalanche of fears?
Anyhoo ... the record is now set straight.
For clarification, I have been banged by one and only one guru: Entropy.
The rest have been, at most, hooking up. In my world, "hooking up" usually means making out.
This also pretty much makes a moot point out of Sinn's BS about condoms. I am abstinent. You really think a tiny latex barrier is going to protect you from that avalanche of fears?
Anyhoo ... the record is now set straight.
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